Relationships are based on exchanges and shares: the emotions, experiences, good and bad times.So it is necessary that you and your partner are in line and according to the maximum possible issues that may involve a courtship.
However, as this is not always a reality in romantic entanglements, it may be that some attitudes of her boyfriend is harmful, both for you and for the relationship itself. Often identify these problems can be, at first, more difficult than it sounds, since many actions can come disguised as “too much love”.
In others it may be that the involvement is so great that you just end up forgetting some important things both for you and for your partner and your dating.
To help you have a better perception of how a relationship can change their habits, check out a list of things not to stop because of boyfriend, or even because of a custom that you acquired after you began to relate to.
1. Do not turn away from your friends
At the beginning of relationships it is very common for new couples wishing to spend as much time together as possible. Often, this implies a departure from the social groups in which each is inserted or even of mutual friends. Although this is a natural and even unconscious behaviour, it is wise to avoid it, both to preserve the friendships as to ensure that the couple continues relating with other people, which is healthy.
In addition to becoming a suffocating relationship, the removal of the consequences can range from nauseate your partner due to very exaggerated coexistence even in more drastic cases, end up alone after a possible termination for all his friends gave up trying to keep it around.
2. Be sure to meet new people
I do hang out with friends is also a way to hamper the development of new ties or simply fail to have contact with new people. Expand the social circle, not necessarily bringing new acquaintances for personal interaction, it is one of the easiest and practical ways to have new experiences and learn more of the world, if only the environment around you.
Each individual brings a different life experience, each met different places and people, each went through a unique educational process. Interpersonal relationships are very rich so because of the exchange of experiences and knowledge they provide. The benefits that can be enjoyed both individually and by the couple to present both (if only you have had contact with the new person and then just tell your partner about what you heard on that day) new models of life.
3. Be sure to know yourself better
Life is a process of self-knowledge. Some say even that the greater your contact with yourself, the higher your inner peace. Properly know your body and your personality you can save several unwanted situations or even disappointments.
Knowing well you know what your limits and understand better what makes you happy, so you can also defend more property their views and create greater self-confidence, both in their appearance and in their attitudes.
4. Be sure to do what you like
Either by jealousy, to give more time to dating or simply because he asked, it is important that you evaluate if they fail to do what you like even worth it. This type of recovery can come in many forms, and for you to give up any hobbies or stop attending certain places.
If you agree with his reasons and solve yield also worth wondering whether it would be fair trade so that it also set aside something you enjoy doing and bother you. However, one must be very careful that this set of negotiations is not harmful to the individual development of each one of you, both professionally and personally.
5. Do not change your appearance if you do not want
In a relationship, accepting criticism is very important, but it is also necessary to know filter them and even notice when your partner’s comments are not healthy for you. Remember that you are not required to slim down because he wants to have a slim girlfriend or straighten hair because he does not like curls, or to stop using accessories because he does not like you garnish. Prioritize your feelings, just make the changes you want and do not let it change requests shake your self-esteem.
6. Be sure to dress as you please
Related to criticism, it is also common for partners interfere with the way their girlfriends to dress, but hardly the considerations in this regard are free of possessiveness and jealousy.
If, in your relationship, the request for you to exchange mini-skirts for pants recurs, talk to your boyfriend and explain that this is your style and your way of dressing does not change your feelings and respect for him.
7. Do not give up your individuality
Although being in a relationship means sharing, that does not mean you and your partner have to share, always, every minute of the day that you spend together. You can still go out with your friends and let him go out with his friends, as you can also store your own secrets – provided it is not something that put the dating and your trust at risk, of course.
8. Do not let that limit you
In toxic relationships can happen to your partner to get your girlfriend or wife believe everything the couple live together is a stroke of luck, because, in fact, it would not be worthy of great his company.
Attitudes boyfriend or husband that trigger this process of manipulation – called also as gaslighting – are tricky and are not easily identifiable. In general, it can manifest in lines that inferiorizem you or cause you to question and doubt yourself, which may prove to hinder you to achieve professional goals or feel beautiful, for example.
9. Be sure to travel
Enjoy an incredible opportunity, an airline promotion with friends or visit a relative in another state: If your boyfriend can not accompany you or travel proposal do not include, talk to him and be sure to enjoy.
As much as you live together and share quite many times now, you can still spend some time without seeing it in person. If the problem is the fact that you can not live this adventure together, tell them you will bring many new stories to tell him, and if you like the destination, you can visit him together another time.
10. Do not give up your dreams
Above all feature, it is important that a relationship is filled with fellowship, which involves mutual support. So do not let pessimism or her foot from your partner function as a bucket of cold water and be sure to fight for what you believe will make you happy.
11. Do not betray
Just as it is not fair that you stop doing what you love because your boyfriend asked, it’s not fair that you pass to do something which does not agree or adopt habits that do not match your lifestyle to suit best to your partner.
Always evaluate if what you will do will not be cause for regret in the future or compromise your health or self-esteem. It seems to hit say it, but always a valid advice is to point out that your partner must accept you the way you are, not as you could be. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with trying to always be a person getting better, but this is a decision that must come from you, that’s who should be happy with the result.
Therefore it is important for the relationship that each Safeguard your individuality and not betray yourself or allow others try to make you someone who you are not.
12. Be sure to enjoy the present
The tips presented above can be summarized in a large group: enjoy now, either with your partner or alone, but especially alone. Never let go of your personality to please others, especially if it bothers you. Respect your essence and prioritize their happiness before thinking about as you leave your boyfriend happier. Although it is cliché, you can still reaffirm that you can only be happy in a relationship when your happiness is guaranteed, and you can only truly love someone when the greatest love is for yourself.
As people are very different from each other, it is very difficult to list patterns in relationships, but it said that only deserve your time and your caring partner who love you for who you really are and not with changing conditions. If you’re feeling undermined, devalued or written off in its dating, it is important to talk openly about it and consider whether it really pays to insist on a toxic relationship.Remembering always your own happiness comes first.
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